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This is how we do it: ‘An intimacy menu reignited my sex drive after early menopause’
Linda lost her sexual appetite after a hysterectomy, but making a list of sex cues with partner Elias helped her regain her desire. How do you do it? Share the story of your sex life, anonymously.

TL;DR
- Linda, 45, experienced a drastic drop in sex drive after a hysterectomy led to early menopause.
- Her partner, Elias, 59, also felt insecure due to her declining interest in sex.
- Inspired by a book, they created a shared digital 'intimacy menu' listing preferred intimate activities.
- The menu allows them to suggest and plan intimate encounters, acting as a form of foreplay and breaking a cycle of rejection.
- The 'intimacy menu' has helped Linda regain her sex drive, improve their communication, and strengthen their relationship through shared challenges.
- Both partners acknowledge physical changes with age but emphasize open communication and acceptance.
- Their sex life has shifted from near-daily to about once a week, which they find sufficient.