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The one human need ‘we cannot ignore,’ according to bestselling author—it's 'how we've survived and evolved'
“We are interdependent,” says "Mattering" author Jennifer Wallace. “That is how we've survived and evolved."
TL;DR
- Mattering is defined as feeling valued by others and having the opportunity to add value back.
- Deficits in mattering are linked to depression and suicidal tendencies.
- Small gestures of gratitude, like sending thank-you texts, can make others feel valued.
- Performing small helpful deeds for others, such as assisting a neighbor, also strengthens connections.
- A nightly exercise involves reflecting on times you felt valued and times you added value to others.
- These practices help train the brain to focus on positive interactions and connections.