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Child psychologist’s 2-step formula for parents to raise confident kids: It gives them ‘the opportunity to thrive’

Anxiety can be a key ingredient of confidence for children, rather than the enemy, says clinical child psychologist Kathryn Hecht.

Child psychologist’s 2-step formula for parents to raise confident kids: It gives them ‘the opportunity to thrive’

TL;DR

  • Anxiety is a primary human emotion, not something to be eliminated.
  • The formula for building confidence is Anxiety + Bravery = Confidence.
  • Parents should allow children to experience and manage anxiety safely, rather than rescuing them.
  • Parents can model bravery and create opportunities for children to practice bravery in low-stakes situations.
  • Celebrating small steps and using playfulness can encourage children to confront their fears.
  • Learning to handle anxiety helps children develop confidence in their capacity to deal with life's challenges.