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This is how we do it: ‘I worried that he’d miss having sex with women’
Joe had never dated a bisexual man before, while Matt took time to trust his new partner, but now both are happy swapping roles in the bedroom. How do you do it? Share the story of your sex life, anonymously.
TL;DR
- Joe, a gay man, dated Matt, who is bisexual, and initially worried about Matt missing sex with women.
- Joe experienced body image issues stemming from a past abusive relationship, but feels more attractive with Matt's reassurance.
- Matt, though mostly dating men, has a fluid sexuality and was initially concerned about Joe's lower libido and work-related stress impacting their sex life.
- Couples therapy helped Joe and Matt improve communication, with Joe learning to listen to Matt's feelings without defensiveness.
- The couple has swapped dominant and submissive roles, with Joe now enjoying being more dominant after gaining trust in Matt.
- Both partners are committed to monogamy for the foreseeable future but have discussed potential future non-monogamy.
- Matt prefers giving oral sex, while Joe sometimes wishes he could take on a more caring role for Matt.