My father left my mother for another woman. He wants us to start including her. Do we need to?
He’s decided he wants to be with her, writes Eleanor Gordon-Smith – this means choosing between what feels fair and what’s best for your relationship
TL;DR
- Adult children are struggling with their father's affair and new partner after their parents' divorce.
- They want to maintain a relationship with their father but only see him alone, causing conflict.
- The father is reluctant to attend family events without his new partner.
- The situation causes stress and worry about alienating their mother.
- Advice suggests that preserving the relationship with the father might necessitate accepting his new partner, despite the pain caused.
- The article highlights the difficulty of balancing feelings of fairness and hurt with the desire for family closeness.