I’ve always supported my dysfunctional siblings, but I’ve had enough. How can I divorce myself?
You feel guilty because you’ve done ‘better’ in life, but you can’t rescue them. Listen to your resentment and learn to let go
TL;DR
- The author, a successful 66-year-old widow, feels guilt and resentment for her struggling siblings.
- She feels like she is carrying the family but not part of it, having always made different choices.
- A therapist suggests the guilt may be 'survivor guilt' and stems from feeling responsible for her siblings' struggles.
- It is important to recognize that personal success is often due to competitiveness and effective direction of energy, not at the expense of others.
- The advice is to accept personal limitations, mourn losses, and step back from trying to 'rescue' siblings.
- Letting go is presented as the most effective shield, with resentment serving as a reminder to stop doing too much.
- The author is encouraged to refocus energy on supportive relationships and to regularly affirm that she is not responsible for her siblings.