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I'm a psychologist who studies couples: People in the happiest relationships do 5 things on Sundays—that most neglect

Before a new week begins, the happiest couples pause. Mark Travers, a psychologist who studies couples, shares the five simple check-ins help them stay close and emotionally in sync.

I'm a psychologist who studies couples: People in the happiest relationships do 5 things on Sundays—that most neglect

TL;DR

  • Strong couples focus on small moments and consistent rituals to stay connected.
  • A Sunday reset involves five key practices: logistical check-ins, moments of appreciation, emotional debriefs, planning the week ahead, and a conscious reset.
  • Logistical check-ins help fine-tune team operations and prevent friction by addressing responsibilities and expectations.
  • Expressing gratitude for each other trains the mind to focus on the positive and makes partners feel seen.
  • Emotional debriefs allow couples to revisit issues without fear or judgment, preventing small problems from escalating.
  • Planning for the week ahead, including shared activities, instills a sense of forward momentum and connection.
  • A conscious reset involves identifying and letting go of stress, disappointment, or unmet expectations to move forward with closure.