This is how we do it: ‘Her work crush led to us having clinging-on-for-dear-life sex’
Growing up gay in the 90s, Verity and Darya lacked the confidence to talk about their desires. Verity’s attraction to a colleague changed all that
TL;DR
- Verity and Darya, together for 20 years, initially lacked sexual confidence and open communication.
- Verity's infatuation with a colleague triggered a relationship crisis.
- The crisis led to honest conversations about their sex life and differing sexual needs (Verity as a 'slow burner,' Darya as a 'fast burner').
- They learned to consciously cultivate desire, moving away from the idea that attraction must be associated with panic or sickness.
- Their sex life has since become more frequent and fulfilling.