The Upside of Not Fitting In

What if loneliness and self-doubt are the best way to grow?

The Upside of Not Fitting In

TL;DR

  • Being an outsider, whether new to a place, job, or group, is an investment, not a flaw.
  • Discomfort, loneliness, and self-doubt can be signs of stretching and growing, leading to resilience and emotional strength.
  • Outsiders are more likely to question assumptions, break rules, and imagine alternatives because they are less bound by group norms.
  • People who feel excluded may be better at original thinking.
  • Embracing the outsider feeling is a painful but rewarding investment.
  • Immigrants embody the act of taking risks for meaningful rewards and having faith in the future.