The dreadful decline of hosting at home: ‘I feel shame any time a friend comes over’
It used to be quite normal to pop next door for a coffee or invite friends over for dinner. But not any more. What’s behind this change – and just how damaging is it?
TL;DR
- Hosting friends at home has become less common, with a significant drop in regular hosting observed in both the US and UK.
- Reasons for this decline include the perceived effort and stress of hosting, the need for extensive cleaning, the rising costs of entertaining at home, and pressure to meet high social and aesthetic expectations.
- Modern lifestyles, including busy schedules, more intensive parenting, and the desire for a clear separation between home and social life, also contribute to the trend.
- The shift away from home hosting may impact the depth of friendships by reducing opportunities for intimate connection and self-disclosure.
- While social media and TV cooking shows often create unrealistic hosting standards, some experts emphasize that the generosity and effort of hosting can build unique and strong connections.