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This is how we do it: ‘My sex life with her is completely separate to my life as a divorced father’
A casual arrangement became something more substantial for Shani and Can, who are happy living in the moment. How do you do it? Share the story of your sex life, anonymously.
TL;DR
- Shani and Can's relationship evolved from a casual brunch meeting into a substantial connection.
- They have maintained strong sexual attraction for over two and a half years, seeing each other a few nights every couple of weeks.
- Open communication about attraction, other people, and fantasies is a key aspect of their relationship.
- Can, previously polyamorous, chose to focus solely on Shani, finding her mind as attractive as her body.
- Shani, after a period of avoiding commitment, found Can's non-needy approach reassuring.
- They value the distance in their relationship, which helps maintain sexual tension and independence.
- Both express a desire to continue their relationship in its current intuitive, present-focused state.
- Shani admits potential jealousy if Can were to see someone else, indicating a future test for the relationship.