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Before Ruth died, we agreed on her ‘ghost’ sign. Experts say it’s a powerful tool for working through grief
I don’t believe in ghosts. But for the bereaved, receiving ‘messages’ from beyond the grave can help us feel connected to the departed
TL;DR
- The author made a pact with her dying friend, Ruth, to send humorous signs from beyond the grave, despite not believing in ghosts.
- Experts in psychology, sociology, and funeral direction confirm that searching for signs from the deceased is common and helps the bereaved feel connected.
- These signs, often unexplained coincidences like specific smells or sounds, are seen as a way to reintroduce meaning into the world after a death.
- The instinct to seek comfort in these signs is adaptive, helping to maintain a changed but not ended relationship with the departed.
- The phenomenon is partly explained by the Baader-Meinhof effect, where emotionally significant information becomes more noticeable during grief.
- Social workers and grief counselors observe that mourners frequently attribute events to deceased loved ones, finding comfort in these perceived messages.
- While these signs can be powerful for healing, experts caution against exploitation by psychics and mediums.
- The author concludes she will look for a 'rude' sign in the clouds while surfing as confirmation of her friend's pact.