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This is how we do it: ‘If I’m honest, the fact that Thomas was married made it more exciting’
Vivian and Thomas both left physically unfulfilling marriages and are rediscovering their sex drives in later life
TL;DR
- Vivian, 61, discovered masturbation and orgasm for the first time in her mid-50s after her divorce.
- Thomas, 58, began an affair with Vivian while he was still married, finding her physically attractive and sensing a lack of sexual fulfillment in his own marriage.
- Vivian's interest in sex increased significantly after menopause and with Thomas, though she notes his libido has declined.
- Thomas struggles with maintaining erections and needs time to recover between sexual encounters, which sometimes causes Vivian to worry about her attractiveness.
- Both individuals acknowledge a decline in libido due to age and past marital experiences, but find comfort and connection in their current relationship.