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My husband doesn’t want to give up his mistress. Should I settle for half his heart?

It sounds like you are so concerned about losing him, you are considering losing yourself, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith. This bit is the mistake

My husband doesn’t want to give up his mistress. Should I settle for half his heart?

TL;DR

  • A wife discovered her husband of 20 years has been having an affair for a year with a friend.
  • The husband wants to continue the affair but remain married, claiming he loves his wife.
  • The wife fears demanding he end the affair will cause him to stop loving her.
  • Advice suggests that agreeing to the situation teaches one that unbearable pain is acceptable and that their own well-being is less important.
  • The importance of self-respect and not losing oneself in a relationship is emphasized.