This is how we do it: ‘After 50 years together, I’m more orgasmic than ever’

Valerie and Max have discovered the secret of maintaining an active sex life in your 70s – and are happy to pass on their tips

This is how we do it: ‘After 50 years together, I’m more orgasmic than ever’

TL;DR

  • Valerie and Max have been together since 1975 and have always prioritized sex and intimacy.
  • They believe intimacy builds intimacy and is important even when physical intimacy is not possible, through cuddling and kissing.
  • Accepting physical changes and dressing up, including wearing lingerie, helps them maintain attraction.
  • Valerie has experienced increased orgasms with age.
  • Max experienced difficulties with erections after 50, leading them to evolve their sex life to 'outercourse', focusing on oral sex and touching.
  • They schedule sex, often on Saturday nights, and dedicate time to foreplay and emotional connection.
  • They believe great sex contributes to a great marriage and vice versa.
  • They suggest using aids like lubrication to compensate for age-related changes.
  • Age is not a barrier to a fulfilling sex life.