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I've studied over 200 kids. Here's the No. 1 skill parents are forgetting to teach kids today
Parents today try to raise their children for good grades and high achievement. But that's not what we should be focusing on, says child psychologist Reem Raouda, who has studied over 200 kids. She shares the most important skill parents are forgetting to teach today.
TL;DR
- Emotional safety, rather than solely focusing on achievement, is crucial for a child's confidence and resilience.
- Parents should allow children to fully experience and express their feelings, resisting the urge to immediately calm or fix them.
- Validating a child's feelings and inner world teaches them to trust their own judgment.
- Children who express frustration openly may feel more emotionally safe than those who always comply.
- Shifting from evaluation to curious observation helps children feel safe and understood.
- Not every emotion or behavior requires an immediate parental response; children need space to process.
- Parents must do their own emotional work to genuinely model emotional safety.