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I’m a psychologist who studies couples: People in emotionally secure relationships do 5 things every day—that most neglect
Emotional security comes down to how a couple handles conflict, independence, boredom and doubt over time. Mark Travers, a psychologist who studies couples, shares the habits of people in emotionally secure relationships.
TL;DR
- Secure couples resolve conflicts by addressing issues directly, acknowledging feelings, admitting faults, and ensuring both partners feel heard and respected.
- They allow each other autonomy, supporting separate activities and friendships, recognizing that individuality enhances the relationship.
- Secure partners resist the urge to assume their partner's feelings, preferring to ask and listen.
- They accept periods of boredom or monotony as signs of stability rather than a lack of the 'spark'.
- Secure individuals manage their own doubts without constantly seeking external reassurance from their partner, relying on observed consistent effort and behavior.