How to Follow the Right Star

TL;DR

Happiness is not achieved by direct pursuit but by setting tangible "proxy goals" that guide one toward well-being.
Effective proxy goals align with internal values and possess three characteristics: non-zero-sum, approach-oriented, and non-positional.
Non-zero-sum goals, unlike zero-sum goals (e.g., becoming CEO), allow others to achieve similar success and increase life satisfaction.
Approach goals focus on positive reasons for striving (e.g., "learn new skills"), while avoidance goals focus on negative outcomes (e.g., "don't be poor").
Non-positional goals focus on intrinsic value (e.g., raising a family) rather than social comparison or impressing others.
Four axioms for pursuing happiness: focus on relationships, prioritize inner direction, enjoy the journey, and stay flexible.
Focusing on love and service to others, which are inherently non-zero-sum, approach-oriented, and non-positional, leads to happiness.
The "arrival fallacy" describes the disappointment after achieving a long-sought goal, highlighting the importance of enjoying the journey.
Flexibility is crucial, as circumstances change, requiring a readiness to find new goals without remorse.

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