Most people think these are 5 signs of chemistry—but they're actually 'red flags,' says psychology expert
Clinical psychologist Dr. Amy Tran shares her best advice for how to spot red flags that often masquerade as romantic chemistry.
TL;DR
- Intense feelings in a new relationship might be a sign of past trauma rather than true chemistry.
- Feeling on edge around someone new can be mistaken for excitement due to the similarity between anxiety and excitement.
- Emotional rollercoasters and addiction-like pursuit of a partner can stem from stress hormone release.
- Returning to a partner repeatedly might be an unconscious attempt to heal old wounds or a false sense of control.
- Jealousy, rather than a sign of love, can indicate insecurity and a need for external validation.
- A lack of chaos or calm can feel boring if one's nervous system is accustomed to intense dynamics, leading to manufactured conflict.
- Slowing down, self-reflection, therapy, and practices like breathwork and meditation can help relearn safety and consistency.