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Infertility: at a time when we need the right words, others are unable to find them
For me, better timing, fewer platitudes, less certainty and more listening and empathy are helpful ways of connecting with people in the loneliest of times
TL;DR
- Infertility is a common issue, affecting about one in seven couples, yet conversations around it remain challenging.
- The author shares personal experiences of receiving unhelpful and insensitive comments during her own struggles with miscarriage and IVF.
- Common unhelpful phrases include "I'm sure it will happen" and "maybe it's just not meant to be," which can minimize pain and feel dismissive.
- Effective support involves fewer platitudes, less certainty, more listening, and greater empathy.
- Thoughtful gestures, such as acknowledging that happy news might be painful for someone, can make a significant difference.
- Even seemingly simple words of validation, like "you are enough without a baby," can be deeply comforting.
- The author hopes to improve conversations around infertility by sharing her experiences and exploring the language used.