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I couldn’t understand my mother’s dementia

When my mum was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, one remark in Jilly Cooper’s romp made me realise how much my happiness is tied to her wellbeing

I couldn’t understand my mother’s dementia

TL;DR

  • The author's mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease in January 2025.
  • The author found herself increasingly emotional and struggling with work and parenting during her mother's diagnosis process.
  • The TV adaptation of Jilly Cooper's 'Rivals' served as an escape, particularly the character Charles Fairburn.
  • Charles Fairburn's reunion with his mother, who recognized him, deeply resonated with the author.
  • The author realized her own happiness is significantly tied to her mother's cognitive state and moments of recognition.
  • The experience highlighted the desire for connection and the pain of losing it due to dementia.