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I can’t afford a tutor to help my daughter get into grammar school. Will she still fulfil her potential?
You may be projecting your own school experience on to your daughter, but her needs are different and she has you to support her
TL;DR
- Parent is concerned about their bright daughter's future in the education system due to inability to afford private tutors for grammar school.
- Parent identifies with past underachievement due to dyslexia and fears projecting their own baggage onto their children.
- Psychotherapist Sarah Kane suggests the parent might be projecting their own childhood imbalances and needs onto their children.
- Kane advises separating personal needs and fears from children's needs and focusing on 'what is' rather than 'what if' scenarios.
- The importance of social development, friendship, and negotiation at school is highlighted as being as crucial as academic achievement.
- Caution is advised against 'splitting' or labeling children, and the value of unconditional love and acceptance is stressed for personal development.